Warning Signs
Some of the following signs are just a part of being a teen. But, when these changes happen suddenly, or without an explanation, these signs could signal abuse. Look out for these signs in your friends and classmates.
Warning signs of an abusive relationship
- Bruises, scratches, or other injuries
- Failing grades
- Dropping out of school activities
- Avoiding friends and social events
- Indecision
- Changes in clothes or make–up
- Changes in eating or sleeping habits
- Secrecy
- Avoiding eye contact
- Crying spells or hysteria fits
- Constant thoughts about the dating partner
- Alcohol or drug use
- Anxiety and depression
- Sudden changes in mood or personality
- Fearfulness around the dating partner or when his or her name is mentioned
Warning signs of an abusive person
- Wants to get serious in the relationship quickly
- Will not take no for an answer
- Is jealous and possessive
- Makes all the decisions
- Dismisses other people's opinions and feelings
- Wants to control a person's friends and activities
- Puts constant pressure on someone
- Demands to know where someone is all the time
- Uses guilt trips–"If you really loved me, you would..."
- Feels that he or she deserves unconditional love and support
- Has a history of bad relationships
- Blames the person for his or her feelings and actions–"You asked for it" or "You made me mad"
- Apologizes for violent behavior and promises not to do it again
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